My Medieval Woodland Wedding
It was always a dream of mine to have a medieval wedding and I had tucked that dream away in the back of my mind. I filed it next to “Live in Italy” and “Open a Restaurant”, things I thought would be super cool to do but would probably never happen.
The first time I mentioned to Josh that it would be neat to do a medieval themed wedding, we were at the Renaissance Fair. It was around 2 years into our relationship but I already knew I’d marry him some day, and my heart leaped when he agreed that it’d be a cool theme and definitely something he wanted to do. For the next 4 years, I dreamed about what this wedding would look like and what my perfect dress would be.
October 23, 2019 Josh proposed while we were on a mountain in Switzerland. I think I was in shock, I didn’t remember him kneeling and I just kept saying “Right now?” I tried not to get too excited since we were on a trip with friends for another week and a half yet, but every castle we went to, my mind wandered to my medieval wedding plans.
I think the place to start, is solidifying your theme. I obviously chose Medieval, but narrowed it to a very specific look. I wanted it to be how I imagine an early Middle Ages wedding where the families involved come together to decorate with what they have, utilizing seasonal decor, food, and “venues”.
A Theme on a Budget
I had hoped that keeping it simple, using wild flowers, and making our own food would keep the budget down, and it did. We spent around $7,500 after tipping the vendors that we did have. We had 52 people in attendance. In case you don’t want to read the whole detailed thing, here’s the TLDR on where we saved the most money:
We used a local state park picnic shelter, it cost $65 for the shelter, $20 for the ceremony site, and $100 for the parking fees.
We made our own food, serving 2 soups (because it was November), a cheese board, rolls, and cake from a local bakery. This totaled about $600 for 50 people. It was a very extensive cheese board, so you could definitely do less. This price also includes bio-degradable bowls, plates, and cutlery.
We made the decorations ourselves (my stepmom and I). I used evergreen branches from mine and other family members yards, foraged and grown flowers, and berries. I had to purchase floral wire and tape, zip ties to hang things, and some fishing line and other various things. I did buy some Baby’s Breath for ten dollars, but the total for flower related decorations was $23.22
We served only a few alcohol choices. Selecting a few crowd pleasers can go a long way.
We didn’t have a DJ
The Clothing
One of my favorite things to work on during this process was the clothing. I wanted to stay as historically accurate as possible for the wedding party so that no one looked like they were going to a Halloween party. I tried to minimize the “fantasy” look (although not completely) and tried to stay within a time period. Ultimately, I wanted people to enjoy the clothing they bought. I knew some people would want to wear it again, and some just wanted to like the way they looked in photos.
My Dress
Please forgive me for swooning a bit, but this dress was literally made for me. I reached out to the lovely folks at Dress Art Mystery with a concept. I knew I wanted the form fitting, long sleeves, green velvet, and embroidery that they excel at, and let them do the rest. The result is this magnificent adjustable piece of art that makes my soul sing. And only $950 for a custom made dream dress is well worth it to me. I seriously feel like a forest elf goddess in this dress and I’m so happy it turned out that way. This dress is mostly the reason I chose early medieval, I felt like it worked with my body type and modern standards of beauty.
The embroidery on the dress is so fancy that I didn’t want a very complicated necklace. I found this incredible torc on Etsy and it works perfectly. I kept my hair simple because it’s already long and flowy, and meant the tiara fit well. You can’t see them but I’m wearing very ugly orthopedic shoes because my feet are messed up.
I also made a White cape to walk down the aisle in. I lined it with fur to match My Loves’ Fur Mantle.
My Love-
My Husband :) chose to wear this Leather Doublet, a fur Mantle, This Celtic Ring Belt, and the shirt and pants from Etsy. His boots are custom made by Just in Thyme Boots, and are so sturdy. We do visit and sell things at Ren Faires, so he is excited to have a really nice outfit for that. I love the way his outfit came together, and he was really happy with it. I know I’m biased but I think he looks great!
The Party-
From Homemade, to high-end, to budget friendly, we had a wide variety of clothing. I made my maid of honors’ dress (my sister in blue) from scratch. It took too long and came out a tiny bit wonky but overall it looks great. It’s a side less surcote that is meant to be early medieval and mildly accurate. It’s velvet, faux silk, and that woven panel in the front, with silver trim and my Grandmothers pearls sewn in at 3 points. The underdress was made by a popular shop in germany and fit her really well.
My Bridesmaids all chose dresses and they are each different and beautiful. My friend in red looks like the spirit of Christmas and its incredible. She got her dress here. The other two got theirs at this site, they are really pretty and each fit the wearer well.
The Groomsmen had less choice, and didn’t mind. They wanted me to list the things they should buy with less choices being better. The man in grey long sleeves with the fur ended up buying “fancier” items because he had been waiting for a reason to buy Ren Fair gear. His tunic has fancy trim and came from here, and his mantle came from here. Everyone else shopped at the same site for their various outfit peices. As you can see there’s plenty of variety.
Everyone searched for belts that would work, you can look for “ring belts” for the classic look, or there are youtube videos on how to make modern belts work. Everyone also wore shoes they already had, I just specified neutral color without much metal on them, and that worked well.
As our bridal party gifts, we gave everyone drinking horns. They loved them so much and it was a super cute moment to hand them out with little notes of thanks. We got them here.
The Flowers
I knew immediately that I wanted to do my own flowers. Being an Herbalist, I have a strong connection with plants and I knew that on such a special day, I wanted to have plants that I knew and added intention to my ceremony. I also knew that I wanted this wedding to have a “homemade” feel. As if our families were putting on the event like they would have historically, doing what they could with what they had. All the work we put in saved a lot of money, and gave the exact feel I wanted.
My yard has an abundance of boxwood and evergreens. I grow Yarrow, Wormwood, and Rosehips, I foraged for Goldenrod and snowberries, and bought $5 worth of Baby’s Breath. I dried the Goldenrod, Yarrow and Baby’s Breath to preserve them, and mute the yellow of the Goldenrod a bit. I collected Goldenrod for weeks in the late summer and early Fall, until I had enough.
Goldenrods’ tall thin stems topped with bright yellow plumes of tiny daisy like flowers represent Growth and Encouragement. The showy plant can also be used to wish good luck and fortune to someone, especially in a wedding bouquet.
Yarrows’ umbrella-like clusters of white flowers and many fingered leaves has long symbolized protection, healing, love, and establishing boundaries. In British Folklore it is said that a couple who carries Yarrow on their wedding day would form an unbreakable union.
Wormwoods’ soft and fuzzy pale green leaves are probably the most controversial thing I included in my bouquets. In the bible, wormwood is associated with bitterness and regret. In other cultures it is a magical herb, used to counter unwanted spells and protect against accidents. The mildly hallucinogenic properties of true Absinth (derived from Wormwood in alcohol) make this a dreamy plant, a soothing but powerful medicinal. The smell is amazing and I chose to include it for that, the color, and the protection from accidents. Intentions are everything!
Baby’s Breath flowers are well known for their inclusion in weddings. They symbolize Love everlasting, commitment, innocence, and purity. It’s easy to see why they’ve become a staple. Plus, they dry well and still look really nice.
Arbor Vitae, or the Eastern White Cedar, means Tree of Life in Latin. It symbolizes life, growth, and healing. It is also one of my favorite inclusions in incense, and as freshly cut decorations.
Boxwoods slow growing, evergreen oval leaves are associated with immortality in European traditions. It became popular in the 1500s and was used as topiary art and low hedge walls.
Winterberry plants can brighten the darkest winter day, as when the leaves fall, the twiggy shrub is left covered in hundreds of clustered brilliant red berries. Being a part of the Holly family, it symbolizes good luck in the winter and is used to brighten the home.
Timing-
I made the wreaths and ladies Headbands 2 days before the wedding, and the bouquets the day before.
For the Bridesmaid bouquets, I layered greenery in a jar, then placed my flowers in the middle in no particular order. I used wire to gather them from the bottom and hold them together in that circular shape while I bound them with floral tape. Each bouquet took about 15-20 minutes to make.
For my bouquet, I laid out long pieces of greenery first, then layered in the flowers, berries, and more greenery. I used hot glue to fill it out with more green where needed. It took about 30 minutes to make this one.
The wreaths are made from Wisteria, which also grows in my yard. I used floral wire to attach the greenery, and most of the flowers are hot glued in. Each wreath took us about 20-30 minutes each to assemble, but 20 minutes total to hang on the day of.
The greenery on the Banister of the stage area is attached with zip ties. It was very simply just laid on and tied down. I made sure the the shape of the branch arched downwards, so it gave that draped effect. This took about 20 minutes for 2 people to attach.
The headbands my bridesmaids are wearing are made from one piece of japanese boxwood, reinforced by floral wire, with ribbons tied on to the sides. It’s worn like a headband and took me all of an hour to make all of them. We saved time and money by doing the ladies hair ourselves (my sister and I) in very simple designs.
I placed lanterns on each table in the picnic shelter. I covered the picnic tables in unbleached Muslin, placed a burlap runner on top, then had a basic lantern with one fake candle on each. I surrounded the lantern with simple greenery and peacock feathers. I packed the lanterns and candles together ahead of time so on the day, it took about 30 minutes to get the tables set up.
I made 3 Large swags to hang outside the Picnic Shelter using the same greenery and flowers, and hung them on the poles with zip ties. These were made the day before and took about 20 minutes each, and about 20 minutes total to hang up on the day of.
I made my decorations with these plants not only because of their symbolism, but because of their abundance around me. I included greenery on the stage where the ceremony was held, around the stumps going down the aisle, in the wreaths that decorated the pavilion windows, in the bouquets, and in various places that I thought needed some “sprucing”. The symbolism and intention behind them only lent weight to my commitment to my best friend. If you are able to include your own floral touches I encourage everyone to do so. It’s cheap and made the look so special.
The Food
In my ideal plan, I wanted to serve a feast. 2 roasted meats, some seasonal (historically accurate) vegetables, fresh bread, dried fruits, and pies. We’d wash it down with ale and mead and maybe a warm cider. In fact before the pandemic hit, this was my plan. This was going to be the part of the day that “ate” most of the budget, and I was OK with that, because I looooove food. When we started planning for a safe, outdoor wedding, I realized that there wasn’t enough time or even desire to have such a full meal. So we pivoted. There was one outlet in the Picnic shelter and we needed to come up with something that we could not only make ourselves, but serve hot with minimal effort. We also had to meet the dietary restrictions of a few guests. Because it was November and was supposed to be cold out (it ended up being 68 f) we went with soup. Here’s the details:
Gluten/Soy/Dairy free Hearty Vegetable Soup- Squash, 3 types of beans, kale, onions, and seasonings
Hearty Beef Stew- Stew beef, onions, potatoes, carrots, and a whole bunch of fresh herbs from the garden
Fresh baked rolls picked up from Costco
A massive charcuterie board with Cheddar, Gouda, Brie, Pepper Jack, Stilton, Blue, Mimolette, Manchego, Swiss, Feta, Olives, Tapenade, Jams, Dried Fruits, Grapes, Crackers, Sopressata, Salami, and Pepperoni, Dolmas, and more
Spice Cake with buttercream frosting
Warm Mulled Wine, Vienna Lager, Chardonnay, Cider, and water
The soup was served from 2 huge pots over propane burners, and the cheese board was mostly assembled before the ceremony. During “cocktail hour, the guests were able to snack on the cheese board while the soups bubbled away and we had photos taken. The meal was a hit! I had so many people tell me they tried a new cheese that was now their favorite, and the soup recipes had to be sent to quite a few guests. It was the perfect mid afternoon meal where people could choose to eat a lot or nibble. We saved a lot of money doing it ourselves, and even more choosing soups. Not going to lie, the cheese board was expensive, but I work in a cheese shop and it’s kind of my thing, so less cheese would have still fed everyone. All in all, we spent around $800 on Food, drink, plates, bowls, cups and plasticware.
The Ceremony
We chose a handfasting ritual as our vow ceremony. The officiant we found was able to adapt this ancient tradition to fit our non-religious tastes. She kept our theme in mind the whole time, and was genuinely excited about it. She even had a dress custom made to fit the look. I can not say enough how much that added to the vibe. Biggest take away, if you do a theme, make sure the vendors involved at least appreciate your excitement.
We focused on the strength of love, and had 5 family members wrap our handfasting cord as each vow was spoken. It made the ceremony really personal and lovely as each family member got to have an active roll in our "Tying the Knot”.
The Tent
The tent that I got ready in is something I am so glad I thought about. Since we were at a park, there was no changing area. We did all get ready at my house, but I knew we’d need a place to “touch up” before the ceremony and after decorating, and also somewhere for me to “hide” while the guests arrived. I came up with the idea of putting the sun walls up on my pop up tent, and then adding muslin for a draped look. We brought in an old carpet we had, a wooden mirror, a wooden table, chair, and some furs. I used this to gt ready, but after the ceremony, we moved the tent, leaving the carpet and mirror as a cool photobooth area for our medieval garbed guests. They loved it! I think that really added to the vibe.
Pandemic Wedding
We originally had a very different plan, as did everyone else with a 2020 wedding date. We cut our guest list from 180 to 50, decided on our favorite park to host our outdoor wedding, and panicked for a couple months. We weren’t sure if we’d be able to have guests, we were dealing with vendor changes and a lot of anxiety over whether we should cancel. It worked out well. We made sure everything was outdoors, guests wore masks during the ceremony and when not eating, we provided a lot of hand sanitizer, there was ample space to spread out to eat, and we stayed outside for the “after party”. The whole event lasted about 4 hours, just the ceremony, food, and pictures. We decided that dancing wasn’t a good idea and instead headed home for a fire circle.